When I was around 10 years old, I decided to write down all the things my parents did that annoyed me. My intention was that I would refer to this when I had children so that I wouldn’t make the same mistakes.
I don’t think I persevered with this project for more than a week or two, but I imagine I told myself to avoid things like (from Mum) not pulling the changing room curtains open while I was still changing to demand, ‘How does it look?’ And (for Dad) not asking embarrassingly loud questions like, ‘Is that the boy you like?’
No parent is perfect. We all have our struggles and need to be honest with our children that we stuff up sometimes, that being an adult is harder than we ever imagined it would be when we were their age, but that the love we felt for them in their first few hours and days has never changed.
I remember a 1970s song recorded by Christian singer Amy Grant called ‘Father’s Eyes’. It carried the prayer that when people looked at her life, they would say: ‘She’s got her Father’s eyes … eyes that find the good in things when good is not around, eyes that find the source of help when help just can’t be found, eyes full of compassion, seeing every pain … just like my Father’s eyes.’
Sometimes people will see the likeness of our earthly father in us—the good and bad. How much better when people look at us and notice the likeness of our perfect Heavenly Father.
Christina Tyson
Editor
Proverbs 10:9 (NIV)
Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out.
Ngā Whakatauki 10:9
Ko te tangata haere tika, e haere ora ana: ko te tangata parori kē ōna ara, ka mōhiotia ia.